Whether you and your husband or wife gradually came to the realization that neither of you wanted to continue with your marriage, and as such, the split was incredibly amicable, or indeed if you were not the partner who decided to end things, it can always be difficult to start moving forward.
So, in an effort to help you do just that, here are four positive things to do when going through a divorce.
1. Connect with Your Support Network
Whether you’re someone with a wide circle of friends and a person whose phone always seems to be making a noise, or else you enjoy a quieter life with only a handful of trusted confidants, going through a divorce is hard, and as such, you will need your friends around you.
Reach out to trusted members of your family and close friends, both to talk through how you’re feeling and how to approach the next challenge ahead and also as a way to distract you, even for half an hour over a cup of coffee, from what’s going on at home.
2. Consider Talking to a Therapist
Another incredibly helpful thing to do when you’re going through a divorce and indeed, as a way to find the positive “silver lining” from the event, is to take the time to explore your own feelings, thoughts, and behaviors and book an appointment with a qualified therapist.
There are endless advantages to talking to a therapist, including the following:
- Stronger relationships with your friends and family
- A way to learn how to handle conflict and arguments more effectively
- An increased level of self-awareness
- A way to improve your core communication skills
- To learn personal coping strategies and skills
3. Look Into Ways of Investing Your Money
If you and your ex-husband or ex-wife shared a home together and you’re now in the process of selling the house, even though this is undeniably and unfortunately, an unavoidable emotional period of your life, it may help to start focusing on what you’re going to do with the money.
Contact professional and established investment management advisors to discuss how you can make more money by investing and moreover, how to handle your finances when you’re divorced.
4. Change Your Routine
Finally, but certainly just as pertinent as the other suggestions within this article, another positive thing to do when going through a divorce, however amicable it is, or not, is to change your regular routine, whether that’s on the weekends or during the week.
Often, people associate their lives with another person so closely due to the level which their individual lives were intertwined, and so logically speaking, changing your schedule will help you to make a fresh start.
Making manageable changes to your daily, weekly, and even monthly routines will serve to prevent unhelpful patterns of thinking, such as prolonged rumination, brought about by emotional distress and also to counteract unwanted emotions such as loneliness and abandonment.